Like many others, I suffered from fear. Fortunately, during my youth is when I suffered the most. The reason I feel it was to my advantage to suffer in my youth is because suffering early lead to relief later in life — when I needed it the most.
In the past, I heard and read a lot of advice about conquering fear, but I was never satisfied. I didn’t just want to face fear, I wanted to be fearless. I didn’t need to know if it was possible to be fearless because I always thought critical thinking could solve any problem, and I eventually learned that critical thinking — and in my opinion — prayer can solve all problems.
How does one become fearless?
Many heard the quote, “the only thing to fear is fear itself.” For a long time, I thought I knew what that means, but until this year, all I had was a good idea.
After — you guessed it — critical thinking and prayer, I finally learned how to beat fear for good. The solution is to understand it.
Fear is an uneasy emotional state that’s triggered by uncomfortable memories, circumstances, and or prediction.
The reason why most suffer from it is because they are afraid of being afraid. It’s not the direct fear — for example fear of heights — that’s the problem because one can learn to act while experiencing their fear, it’s the fear of being afraid that causes people to struggle.
If one is afraid of being afraid, it’s guaranteed they will be. People know fear is a problem, but nurture the state because they think it will keep them safe. In most cases, they simply limit their potential.
What is the solution? The solution is to accept the possibility of being uncomfortable — uncomfortable, but not afraid. Fear is not going to protect anyone. One should prepare for all situations, but be okay with things going wrong. Until one is dead, they will need to consistently learn.
Which brings me to my final point. One must be comfortable with being subject to things they can’t control — especially death. Once one is comfortable with discomfort, they can be fearless.